The Connected Disconnected World: How to Communicate

It truly does sound odd when you voice out the title. Fun fact lol, I wrote this in October but I don’t know why I kept holding onto it lol. I then asked some of my friends because I wanted to solidify the differences in response to the questions, they didn’t hesitate. They responded in video format, view it here.

Enough pleasantries let’s get into it.

The date is October 4, the world is at peace (the elements are calm as earth realms fighters are enjoying life🤔💭??). Corrupt individuals corrupting, thieves doing their thing, scammers scamming and motivating others to work hard on the internet, hits send.….

Nothing is going through, quickly asks that person, you normally don’t talk to unless you need something, hits SEND!! No Tick!!

Did they finally block me, maybe their phone is off, let me check that Slay turn Influencer, refresh, refresh, refresh for crying out loud! No updates. Not even going to bother checking that business app with it’s questionable stories (thoughts, if I hear or read thoughts one more time!!). Now the rage is on, anger, quickly need to vent; running to that bird after removing the SIM Card and restarting the phone.

Turns out, that startup and franchise of that school dropout has malfunctioned (stay in school people).

Now who to talk to, what do people talk about physically these days, laugh but not at each other? Poof be gone… It then hits that we are connected yet disconnected.

Went on a sprint right there didn’t I? haha. In a world that is pacing so fast and ever changing, the sense to communicate is there but not really there. As I was answering the question(are we living in a connected disconnected world) it had me, how do I best connect in such a world (my answer was yes btw). I had a few points on that.

RECREATE

Firstly, in a connected disconnected world one has to be in some sort of community (or not), but to effectively communicate in such a world would require one to RECREATE.

Before we jump and over-assume, think of the Stone Age,how they figured out what to use, think of the Tower of Babel; when all were disoriented development stopped, then those that could hear each other recreated their own community and went about their way.

Many of us have recreated communities to fit those that think the same as us(nothing wrong with that).Sometimes that comes at a cost, on one hand we have a well curated group of mutuals whilst on the other, we have of Generators only(leaders/people who come up with ideas) or Reactors(followers/people who respond to ideas and follow).

In short finding a good community and never being afraid to recreate it; so that you have people that motivate, elevate, rebuke and support you in this connected disconnected world is essential for communication.

Now then, the community has been curated/recreated, still doesn’t mean we are connected or communicating right away. For that to happen one needs to be INTENTIONAL.

INTENTIONAL

Secondly, without intent, even when one has created a good community it’s hard to communicate still. Don’t get it twisted, being intentional doesn’t mean talking every hour, day, week or month (Gen Z and boomer Dads shaking right now). Being intentional means understanding what makes one busy and still making time for the community.

I was at some gathering (cough, ofcourse I went because there was food don’t judge me). One of the older men at that gathering said something profound and it had me thinking.

Time with my kids has been mild because work is hectic, I am barely making time for my wife.

Older man at a food gathering.

I found it baffling, this man that works from home, the children are homeschooled and the wife is a stay at home lady. How are you not having time for all of them and then I asked how he makes time since he is so busy, he said, “being Intentional”

In Life you’ll never not be busy, the day you’re not busy is the day other’s will be busy since you’ll be six feet under

Wisdom Manda

That sounds dark! But it is the reality, you’re either busy doing nothing (idleness can make you busy too). So being intentional will allow you to consider family, friends and you. Intentions helps one to do communicate clearer, helps one to do things better and intentions are a good guide.

VIBE

Lastly,understanding “vibe or energy” is an ultimate goal. Vibe is a person’s emotional state or the atmosphere of a place as communicated to and felt by others.

Understanding Vibe helps those that are socially awkward to be better in a social setting whether to move away or stay and engage.

Think of it this way, you messed up at home and your guardian sends you this message.

Hey, what have you done?

Now imagine receiving the message from an unknown number. How would you react to all of this?

Ok, we are definitely not scratching that bad example, carry on.

Understanding/reading the room right, involves a prior interaction. That interaction or lack thereof is usually the deciding factor to how we interact to that situation.

At the heart of a disconnected connected world is a need for change, a sense of wanting to belong( more like an escape to that which doesn’t remind you of the current problems, a desire to break a system that has oppressed many).

And with that, I have answered my question “are we living in a connected disconnected world” I took it further to focus on what I feel like disconnects us the most in this connected world.